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5 Bullying Wake Up Calls For Parents

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Young girls bullying a young black girl.Bullying is a huge topic in schools, on playgrounds, and in youth sports. And while parents are generally aware bullying is a problem, the natural tendency is to focus on our own children – both in terms of making sure they are not bullied and that they are not bullying others. To get a wider perspective on the scope of the bullying problem and the effect it can have on kids, we’ve put together the following fact sheet.

 

64% of children who experience bullying do not report it

Though schools, coaches, and teachers have made great strides in providing kids opportunities to report bullying, it can still be a very hard decision for a kid to make. According to data from Pacer’s National Bullying Prevention Center, 64% of children who experience bullying don’t report it. Some kids fear reporting their bully will worsen the torment rather than solve it. Other fear they themselves will get in trouble, or feel ashamed of having to ask for help. This is why it’s important for coaches, parents, and teachers to proactively watch for signs of bullying and offer opportunities for kids to speak up.

 

57% of bullying situations stop when a peer intervenes. (Hawkins, Pepler, & Craig, 2001)

Bullies thrive through the inaction of bystanders. A bully is often an insecure person who aims to feel more powerful or in control by making another person feel less powerful or less in control. Singling someone out and belittling them in front of peers serves to heighten the satisfaction for the bully while intensifying the isolation and trauma for the person being bullied. When a peer intervenes on the side of the person being bullied, the bully’s influence is diminished and other members of the peer group are likely to join in to help bring the situation to an end. As parents, teachers, and coaches it is important to support and encourage kids to have the courage to be the person who steps forward to intervene.

 

Cyberbullying starts early – 24% of middle school students report being cyberbullied. Center for Disease Control, 2015)

Many elementary and middle school students have parents who grew up before there was widespread internet access, web-enabled smart phones, or social media. While it may seem too soon for cyberbullying to be a problem for your child it is important to recognize the risk begins as soon as kids go online. As with offline bullying, it is crucial for parents, teachers, and coaches to proactively teach kids how to interact responsibly online, how to report cyberbullying, and that they have safe, supportive, and confidential opportunities to report cyberbullying.

 

84% of students observed overweight students being teased during physical activities

In a study conducted in Connecticut, more than 1500 high school students were surveyed about weight-based victimization and 84% reported observing overweight students being called names and teased during physical activities, like physical education classes and youth sports. (Puhl, et al., 2011) While the majority of students also reported feeling comfortable stepping in on behalf of the teased students, many did not. As parents, coaches, and teachers it is crucial to make exercise environments a safe place for everyone. Young athletes who experience bullying and weight-based victimization during physical activities are more likely to quit sports altogether, which decreases the likelihood physical exercise will remain an integral component of their lives through adolescence and adulthood.

 

The most commonly recommended interventions may be the least effective

Interventions that focus on actions the person being bullied can take on their own (walking away, pretending it doesn’t bother you, telling the bully to stop, fighting back) have some of the worst outcomes, according to studies by Davis and Nixon (2010) and research from psychologist Dan Olweus. Instead of placing the responsibility of ending bullying on the person being victimized, that responsibility rests with adults. The reason school systems and sporting organizations have mounted comprehensive anti-bullying programs is because research shows significantly lower rates of bullying in environments where organizations, teachers, and parents take a clear stance against bullying that incorporates all students – not just the kids directly affected by bullying. As parents in a school or sporting community it’s important to proactively take part in the community’s anti-bullying program, because the program’s effectiveness improves with adult participation.

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Hi. I’m Trevon, Trey, Jennifer. Team USA wheelchair basketball player, paralympian, and true sport athlete. Today, I want to talk to you about goal setting. And there are three things that I would like you to know. First, successful athletes set goals and a planned roadmap. Second, goals should be written down, assessed over time, and changed if necessary. And third, goals need to be challenging in order to be worthwhile. As a freshmen at Edinboro University, I was a part of a team that made the national championship game. And at that time I recognized I was the low man on the totem pole, but I felt in my heart that I knew my dreams were so much bigger than winning a national title. I wanted to make Team USA. I knew what achieving my lofty goal was not going to be easy and that I would need to work hard every day.

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By understanding that there are smaller stepping stones to achieving my ultimate goal of being on Team USA, I was able to stay motivated and to stay focused on completing the smaller stepping stones fully before moving onto the next one. Now I’ll be the first to admit that not every goal that I listed on my pyramid was accomplished, but seeing my goals every day when I went to bed, I was able to push through the days that I felt like doing nothing in hopes of achieving the bigger picture. Remember, create a clear goal roadmap, assess your goals often, and continue to challenge yourself. I hope that you never stopped dreaming big or reaching for the stars. And I look forward to seeing where your roadmap takes you.

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You have the ability to affect even deeper change, to take what’s in your hands and do something even more extraordinary. You can be both the coach who provides the skills needed to win the game and the coach who helps them learn and succeed beyond the sport, to become all stars wherever they land in the future, and to enjoy their lives more now, because the confidence and courage they find working with you will stay with them when they need it the most. There are games to be won, lives to change. Coaches have the power to do both.

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Even when FDA tests supplements and finds dangerous ingredients, companies sometimes refuse to recall them. Sometimes, they simply repackage their product and continue selling it under a new name. Just because a product is on a store shelf doesn’t mean it is safe. You need to do your research and be an informed consumer. The dietary supplement industry is enormous. Supplements that appear to be safe could actually be dangerous products in disguise. If you use dietary supplements without doing your research, you may be taking serious risks with your health and your career. Please visit USADA’s Supplement 411 for more information about dietary supplements.